Why Kindness Doesn't Win the Day

In my life* I have learned one lesson that has carried me through every day and every interaction at every age.


Choose to be kind. Before you know anything about the boy who is being picked on, be kind to him. If even he is not kind to you. Later you will understand his struggle as incomprehensible. Or he may remember that you were one who treated him with dignity. It may change him. It may help him. And, others may follow your example. Maybe ten years later he will be holding the door open for you in torrential rain. He may be your teammate on an important project. His mother may be CEO of the company you want to work for.

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children...

to leave the world a better place...

to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

You can face any of these with your head up for you were kind. 

The thing about kindness is it does not win the day. It can kick you square in the face. Those wounds will heal. Take a minute to let the sting wear off and walk away knowing you did the right thing.  It may take a lifetime for others to realize the value in this or recognize you for being it. But, you will know. And that is all that matters.

For the most part, this project has been a kindness and that has ten-fold been returned. Some have criticized and wondered out loud what was in it for us. I tell you now: kindness. More of it than there had been before. Those who posed the question do not understand the value in it. But my whole life has been lived this way and all the beautiful parts that are mine are mine because of it.

It has hurt, been hard and required defending at times. But all of that withstanding, I wouldn't change a thing. If my life is an example, the golden rule applies. Make your choices accordingly for all of your days on this earth depend upon it. 

*The BEST Beatles SONG.