Adventures of a Practice Engagement Ring
Everyone keeps asking when I'm going to share my own engagement story. I thought about it, and while some details will remain private out of respect for my fiancé I wouldn't be true to my art form if I didn't gush a little especially to my favorite people: the Happy Hudson Valley readers. So here it goes.
I actually met him working on this project which is amazing for two reasons. One because the story I got to tell was one of my best ever, and two because there's something picture perfect about meeting your match in the midst of doing something you love. I'll let you guess when and where the melody of his song reached me, but suffice it to say that I credit this project for our first date. And, our first date was more or less the last first date either of us would ever be on.
When I met him I was wearing a fake engagement ring on my ring finger - a social experiment I started as a single twenty-something to amuse myself and to deter unwanted conversations on nights out on the town solo. I was casually dating several highly qualified men at the time as well, but I quickly canceled my other engagements one-by-one when I realized (almost immediately) there was no one I'd rather spend my time with. While the fantastical details of our courtship are worthwhile telling I think I'll focus on the engagement ring experiment because after two years, I am ready to conclude it. A Happy Hudson Valley first... crossing the line for your reading pleasure: My Personal Adventures of a Practice Engagement Ring.
I have never been completely sold on the idea of a traditional diamond ring. I don't consider myself a traditional sort of person and I can't justify wearing a multi-thousand dollar stone on my hand when it's the same exact predictable thing that everyone else is doing. It's not to say I don't think other people's engagement rings are beautiful, i rather love them and more importantly, the story of how the princess cut g-quality stone arrived on their finger.
I also think the idea of a boy shopping for the ring is romantic, but then again sort of a lost moment in time since the girl isn't there to see his face light up when he finds that perfect sparkling jewel or the converse, the white-as-a-ghost reaction he takes when he realizes how long he'll be paying it off.
But, there is something to be said for having a sparkling insurance policy on your hand in case life gets crazy and you need to subsidize.
I am guessing every girl, however likely to deny it, has started wrapping their mind around the idea of engagement, if not already engaged.
I've reached a point where I no longer designate myself as the one to make the call, there is a reason after-all that the boy is getting down on one knee. So, in an effort to put the test to life I got a blue topaz practice engagement ring, and I've been wearing it for almost a month. I thought, why not see how it feels and find out whether I'm even diamond material.
These are the adventures of a practice engagement ring.
July 4th, 2011
I slipped the ring on, it looks nice. It fits perfect. I think I like it.
July 7, 2011
A colleague notices my bling and mid-conversation stops to ask, "What is that?" At the excitement in his voice, I almost want to lie but I decide against it and confess the bought-it-for-myself reality instead. Backfire!
Heat wave, the size 7 ring that was fitting me perfectly is now falling off of my hand and sliding around. Wondering if they make adjustable sizes for girls who don't stay one size all month and year.
July 26, 2011
Made time for the gym today, got on the rowing machine and remembered that rings don't mix with the handle-pulling activity. I put it down in the middle of the machine between my legs and worked on my rowing skills. I then moved on to the stair machine and got off a hot sweaty mess - bolted for the door. Once i hit the hot air, I remembered my ring, upstairs on the rowing machine. I ran back in faked a panic - why do anything half-a**ed? and there it was! Pretty as a picture, right where I left it. I'm so lucky no one else likes to row. Regardless, near miss.
August 2, 2011
I took a picture of my hand, the Topaz sparkling in the light, but my bitten up fingernails ruined the picture. Might be time to kick the habit.
August 10, 2011
The ring went MIA for a few days. It turned up this morning after a massive hunt next to the kitchen sink underneath a placemat. Oh yea, I took it off to wash dishes. Gotta work on that.
August 23, 2011
Lunch with my Young Professionals Co-Chair Brian. He surprised me when he took me by the hand and said, "Blue Topaz?" Turns out he has a background in precious jewels! I guess some eyes are trained for this.
October 9, 2011
Had an amazing time kayaking in Beacon today. I'm rocking the ring out on the Hudson when my hot date mentions the Practice Engagement blog. I explain that lots of girls rock a pretend engagement ring to ward off predators at the bar. He secretly makes a mental note that I may be insane.
October 22, 2011
I rock the ring during a group Apple Picking escapade ~ I am company to new friends who silently take notice of my ring finger. Weeks later I will find out that they pulled my date aside to inquire about my marital status. This is by far the greatest accomplishment of the experiment to date.
It has been almost a year since that first date kayaking on the river, and things are heating up with the boy. I left the practice engagement ring in a box in a drawer in his room hoping he'll find it and start thinking about buying me a replacement.
I have given up the idea that a ring is in my future at all! Life is getting crazy for us, and while I think we are in this together for the long haul a ring is not in my near future.
He takes me completely by surprise when he gets down on one knee with a beautiful diamond ring that is sparkling like a thousand suns on the ocean at dawn and asks me to be his! I nearly fall over at the gesture as it occurs at the place where we had our very first date, and he confesses that he's been planning for 6 months and working hard to throw me off the scent of this beautiful promise for future. I have never been so happy and am so excited about what our future holds. I plan to leave the practice engagement ring in a box at the place where he asked so that someone else can have their own adventure..
Edited by LoLa - Publisher
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